The Best Way to Improve Your Self-Management Over Time
Self-management is how you control and manage yourself, your emotions, and your abilities. This includes oneโs ability to manage impulses and focus on more important priorities and goals. In short, a person whoโs strong in self-management is not easily knocked off track by adversity, tense situations, or stressful times.
โSelf-management is the emotional intelligence component that frees us from being a prisoner of our feelings. Self-management allows the mental clarity leadership demands and keeps disruptive emotions from throwing us off trackโฆ
โฆLeaders with this level of self-mastery embody an upbeat, optimistic enthusiasm that tunes resonance to the positive range.โ
โDaniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence
There are many tactics and tips to stay intentional and purposeful in improving our self-management skills along our journey. In my research and in my own personal journey, Iโve found a few strategies and tactics as good as this one, simple yet not always an easy one to remember.
Gratefulness.
Make a list of the five things youโre most grateful for in your life.
Next time youโre in a tense, stress-filled situation or when something triggers you to feel sad, mad, disappointed or hurt, remember these five things. Keep them top of mind and in your heart, and youโll begin to reprogram the circuitry in your brain to think before you speak, letting the toothpaste too far out of the tube before itโs too late.
The more you practice self-management, the better youโll become at it. The goal with self-management is to manage our thoughts and emotions so well that weโre able to effectively connect, engage, and inspire others to become their best. Unless or until weโre able to stay cool, upbeat, and positive regardless of circumstances, weโll never quite become the leader others need in situations to help them do the same.
When we first do all we can to become our best, it opens up the door for us to inspire others to become their best.
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